Two years after Shane bought the house, 9/11 hit, which affected air travel enormously. Staff at Aer Lingus were encouraged to take unpaid leave, so he spent a year in Australia with friends. Shortly after his return, in 2003, he and Brian met. “We met in The George,” Shane says with a laugh. “Funnily enough, we wouldn’t be people who go to The George often. I went with a gang, including a friend, Leah, who has a regular boyfriend, and she wanted to go to a place where there wouldn’t be guys after her. I spotted Brian straight away when I went in. He got chatting to Leah, he was spotting me at the same time and Leah noticed, and said, ‘Is that my friend you’re looking at? I’ll introduce you’, but Brian ran away,” Shane reminisces. Brian adds, “I did, I got nervous, I said ‘I’m outta here’, but anyway I came back and I asked Shane for a light – you could smoke then – and we got chatting and that was that.” Brian explains. They both muse that the smoking excuse was a useful device as a chat-up line. Interestingly, they both gave up smoking once they got together.

Brian moved in shortly after, and they’ve been a couple ever since, enduring some turbulent times together, including redundancy for Brian in 2008, when the garage he worked in closed, but it led to a job as a greenkeeper in a golf club, which he loves. “What happened was I got a job working in Ballincarrig golf club, through Fas, three days a week. I took it to get me out of the house. Then Fas asked me would I be interested in doing a course in greenkeeping, which involved two years study. I said, ‘Yeah’ and did the two-year course. Then, literally, on the 21st of April, I passed all my exams and, on the 22nd, a lad who was there 19 years handed in his notice, and I landed on my feet,” Brian notes, adding that the job involves maintaining the greens, and checking for disease among the plants and trees. It’s not so surprising that it suits him, as his father, who had been in Bord na Mona before he retired, is a keen gardener. “It’s never what I thought I’d do, but I had to reinvent myself after the recession. It’s outdoors all the time, lots of variety; I love it.”

Worse was to come for Brian, who’s the youngest of four, with the loss of his beloved mother Eileen, who took her own life in 2010. “She was 59. It was tragic,” he says. “And the mystery is it was a joyful time. My sister Fiona had battled cancer twice, and was told she’d never have another child. She had one daughter, Kelly, then 14, but to everyone’s amazement, she did get pregnant,” Brian explains. “Her second daughter, Fia, arrived within months of Fiona being pronounced clear of cancer. It was the night of the christening, we were all still in the pub; my mam had been in the pub with us. She’d been drinking tea; she’d been in great form, then she said she was tired and going home to bed. And she was in bed and all. My dad was in the kitchen, and he saw her pass by on the way, going to the garage where there was a washing machine, and she didn’t come back out. My dad thought, ‘What’s keeping her?’ and he went out and found her. She had taken her own life.” Brian recalls with some difficulty, “She was never depressed; she had called my sister around a quarter to 11 and they were chatting. She said, ‘We’ll go in the morning and we’ll pick up paint and rollers and we’ll paint the kitchen on Monday’. My sister said, ‘Yeah’, and by a quarter past 11, Mam was found dead.”

Needless to mention, the years in the aftermath of Eileen’s death were hard. “It was tough for all of us, Brian recalls. He says, “What doesn’t break you, makes you stronger. My dad gets on with it, and he has my two sisters living near him. I was lucky, I have a great partner.”

It took Brian a while, but happier times were to come, and two years ago he and Shane decided to finally renovate the house the way they wanted it – they love having their parents to stay, as well as their siblings with their children.

The great thing was the house – dating from the 1980s – is on a corner site, so they had plenty of room to add a two-storey extension to the side.